Romance to Her

Romance to a woman is when the man in her life ties different aspects of her life together. For example if Bill calls me up on Tuesday and asks me to go out on Friday, on Wednesday I’ll get a card in the mail saying, "Can’t wait ‘til the weekend!" On Thursday, he asks me to wear the cute little black dress that he just loves. Then Friday, flowers are delivered with a card, "see ya soon!" and he picks me up and takes me to places that I have told him I wanted to go, and we do things that I have said I wanted to do. And at the restaurant, there is a gift --- already in place --- and then on Monday, I get a card in the mail that says, "Thanks for a great evening!" Wow! I am swept off my feet! (He gets bonus points if he arranged childcare!) He has tied nearly a week together into a romantic memory. Guys, the good news is that if you take the time to tie many romantic details together like this, the aura of it can last YEARS!

One friend of ours has found a way to give practical items like toasters and can openers to his wife and not get in trouble for it! The key, tie it to romance. Paul gives his wife, Gail, a practical item every month on their anniversary --- and he’s dine it for over 10 years because he tells her, "I want to give you things I know you will use, because when you use them, you will be reminded of how much I love you!" But it will only work if you give these items every month. You don’t want to give your wife a vacuum for an anniversary present unless you want it to be your last anniversary!

Romance to Him

Romancing men is pretty simple. Have clear, simple expectations and stick to them! Don’t think that your husband should just know that you want to walk on the beach after and talk about hopes and dreams. To really romance a guy, connect a few of his easy boxes. For example, if I want to romance Bill, I will get him tickets to a football game, take him to his favorite restaurant, and have great sex with him when we get home. In fact, he’d give you the tickets to the ball game and skip dinner if he knew for sure there would be sex. Bingo!

Romance is the art of studying each other for the purpose of pleasing one another. Romance is a skill. Guys, if you were athletes --- or are athletes --- you lifted weights to gain strength. In weight conditioning, you start with lighter weights and then add more repetitions before you add more weight. By repeating exercise (more reps), you gain strength. The same is true with romance. The more you practice it the stronger you become. The more reps, the more romantic a lover you will be.

Like any skill, romance can seem awkward in the beginning. Romance is a lot like driving. When you first start to drive, you drove with your hands, both hands, at the 10 and 2 position. But the more you drove, the more comfortable you became. Now you can drive with one hand while eating a Big Mac, tuning you radio, and talking on your cell phone. Romance is one of the basic skills of love. In basketball, when you break the game down, the fundamentals are simply dribble, pass, and shoot long enough, doing the basics you will be more creative in a game --- it builds confidence. The more you practice romance the more romantic you are! 

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